I was reading Sarah’s post about barrel jeans and thinking about how viscerally I hate barrel jeans (and also about how I can never remember if “barrel” has two Rs or two Ls or both), and wondering whether I would continue to hate them forever more or if, instead, they would be my 2020s version of leggings. Back in the 2010s, at least in the early 2010s, I despised leggings. They looked terrible on everyone. Or, at the very least, kind of revealing. But then, at some point, I experienced a Perspective Shift and discovered that leggings are amazing. I have never looked back.
I experienced a similar Perspective Shift with regards to skinny jeans. To the extent that now, even though the trend has reverted to the far-more-flattering-for-my-particular-shape bootcut jeans, I have not relinquished one single pair of my beloved skinnies. So who’s to say I won’t one day own a closet full of barrel jeans?
Let’s call this Personal Growth.
Are there other areas in which I’ve Grown, Personally?
Fortunately, I have a blog, so I can measure this! In 2010, I wrote two posts about beloved or trendy things I did not understand.
I am pleased to see that I have changed my mind about several of them. Note: I have combined the lists from both posts and alphabetized them, for no reason except that I can.
- Alice in Wonderland (except for the part with Johnny Depp)
- 2025 Position: I do not recall this movie at all; I do know that Johnny Depp is no longer appealing to me.
- Ben Affleck, Taylor Lautner, Robert Pattinson (please don’t hate me!)
- 2025 Position: I feel like I saw a movie starring Robert Pattinson recently that made me think, Hmm, he’s not half bad. But I’m not sure what movie it was. It wasn’t Twilight.
- Buffets
- 2025 Position: I still hate buffets. They make me think of sneezes, germy fingers, and food poisoning.
- Bumper stickers
- 2025 Position: I am now neutral on bumper stickers. They are amusing on other people’s cars; I am not a car decorator person myself.
- Chick-Fil-A
- 2025 Position: Even though I know their values are not aligned with mine, the chicken is so very very yummy.
- Coffee
- 2025 Position: Still can’t stomach coffee.
- Crocs
- 2025 Position: I remain Croc-free.
- Dancing with the Stars
- 2025 Position: Is this even still on the air? I never did get into it.
- Diet Pepsi, Sprite, and 7Up
- 2025 Position: Diet Pepsi is the devil’s soda.
- Doggy bags (in which one carries leftover food)
- 2025 Position: Okay, sure, why not.
- Doggy bags (in which one carries miniature canines)
- 2025 Position: I blame Carla for this, but I now think dogs in purses are adorable.
- Electric toothbrushes
- 2025 Position: I love my electric toothbrush! Why don’t I use it more often?
- Facebook
- 2025 Position: If anything, I abhor Facebook more.
- Flannel anything
- 2025 Position: Comfy, comfy flannel. Why did I ever have anything against you?!
- Gladiator sandals
- 2025 Position: These are cute on other people, but I can’t pull them off.
- Iced tea
- 2025 Position: I regularly drink iced tea, albeit with lemonade; I’m going to count this in the Personal Growth category.
- Jorts
- 2025 Position: Love me some jorts, as long as they fit the way I like.
- Kedollarsignha
- 2025 Position: I’m not 100% certain that Kesha is still A Thing, but I can now admit that some of her songs are catchy.
- Lady Gaga (although I do find her endlessly fascinating and sometimes catchy)
- 2025 Position: I am neutral-leaning-positive toward Lady Gaga. She’s a good actress, a great singer, a fabulous entertainer. I wouldn’t necessarily choose her music to listen to, but I can appreciate her talent.
- LeBron James
- 2025 Position: What did I ever have against LeBron????
- Leggings
- 2025 Position: Oh my sweet 2010 summer child. Leggings are the clothing of the gods. The lazy, comfy gods.
- Mayonnaise
- 2025 Position: I can tolerate mayonnaise in small amounts.
- Michelob Ultra
- 2025 Position: Oh yessssss I love Michelob Ultra. I might even choose to drink it at a bar where there are other beers available.
- Miracle Whip
- 2025 Position: No. Never. Disgusting. If I ever tell you I like Miracle Whip, know that I have been abducted and send in the authorities.
- Movies in 3-D
- 2025 Position: Is this still A Thing? A big meh from me. Not that I’ve seen a whole lot of 3-D movies. Avatar and a couple of movies at the planetarium is all. No need to see any more though.
- Nicholas Sparks and all related paraphernalia
- 2025 Position: Listen. No judgement to anyone who enjoys Nick Sparks. Reading is reading, and there is a reader for every book, and I have been a big ol’ snob in the past (and with regards to Miracle Whip), but just because it isn’t my jam doesn’t mean it’s objectively bad.
- Orlando Bloom
- 2025 Position: Not really sure what’s up with Orlando these days, but he is not on my radar.
- Pedicures
- 2025 Position: I still dislike having a pedicure, but I enjoy having had a pedicure. And I like spending time with mom whilst getting a pedicure.
- RaNdom cAPitaLizaTIon
- 2025 Position: I have no feelings about this one way or another; it has its place and can be amusing when deployed correctly; you do you.
- Red Bull
- 2025 Position: Still have never tried Red Bull and still have no desire to do so.
- Replacing “you” with “u” and “are” with “r”
- 2025 Position: I have Personal Grown so much that I sometimes text my daughter “where r u” when I’ve misplaced her in Target or when she’s not where she should be at the school pickup spot.
- Saying “no problem”
- 2025 Position: Again, I no longer have the intense loathing for this phrase that I used to. I still prefer “you’re welcome” but I don’t necessarily think “no problem” is always as passive aggressive as I once assumed it was.
- Shorts
- 2025 Position: As I’ve matured and, let’s say, filled out and also as I’ve gotten less and less tolerant of heat of any kind, I’ve grown to appreciate shorts’ sartorial role.
- Showering every day
- 2025 Position: It wasn’t until I had a baby that I fully appreciated showers and one’s ability to take them daily. Now, it is a rare day indeed that I skip a shower. I have, however, finally learned how to shower in 10 minutes or less, which was something I thought impossible when I was younger.
- Sliders (the mini hamburger kind)
- 2025 Position: Still haven’t ever eaten a slider, I don’t think. What’s the point, when you can eat a full size burger?
- Soccer (aka “football”)
- 2025 Position: Ted Lasso helped me see the value in soccer. I don’t follow professional soccer or anything, but I don’t mind it, either.
- Spray tans
- 2025 Position: I’ve still only ever endured one spray tan, but I can see how they would be nice – if you had a good spray tan place and money to spend to spray tans and if you looked natural enough in said spray tan.
- Sushi
- 2025 Position: I still can’t stomach sushi. Raw fish just does not appeal.
- Swimming pools
- 2025 Position: When my friend visited recently – a friend I was closest to in the early aughts – she expressed significant surprise that I have a swimming pool in my backyard. “I thought you hated swimming pools?” she said. Well. I am still repulsed by public swimming pools, but I don’t mind my own so much.
- Text messaging
- 2025 Position: Oh, pre-iPhone Suzanne was so naïve. Little did she know that texting would become her preferred means of communication.
- The Bachelorette
- 2025 Position: Although I haven’t watched this in awhile, I do think it’s kind of fun on occasion.
- The Biggest Loser
- 2025 Position: Wow. From my 2025 vantage point, I can hardly believe this show was ever on the air. So cringe.
- The iPhone
- 2025 Position: Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. I bought one in 2013 and have been completely, helplessly addicted ever since.
- Tofu
- 2025 Position: One of these days, Birchie’s descriptions of her delicious tofu-accented meals are going to turn me, I just know it.
- Tomatoes
- 2025 Position: I’ve tried, and it’s not going to happen.
- Trader Joe’s
- 2025 Position: What did I ever have against Trader Joe’s?!?!?!?!?!?!
- Turkey burgers
- 2025 Position: Turkey burgers are still a no from me, dawg.
- Twilight anything
- 2025 Position: Nope. Haven’t changed my mind about this series – book or movie – either.
- Water/soda/iced tea with lemon
- 2025 Position: Eh. This is fine, I guess. Although I did once read that the lemons and limes at restaurants/bars are extremely filthy, so I usually remove any fruit that appears in my drink when out. (No, I do not want to think about what other horrible things go on behind the scenes in a restaurant thank you.)
- Yoga
- 2025 Position: Feels like this prior position of mine is a betrayal of Nicole!!! Nicole, I have changed! Yoga is lovely and centering and strengthening and life affirming! I still don’t do it as often as I should, but I am not, in any way, opposed to it.
Let’s see. Surely there are things that other people currently love that I’m not into. Like barrel jeans, or TikTok, or Chat GPT, or KPop, or the color beige. But at least I’ve Personal Grown to the point where I can acknowledge that I may not always feel this way. Like business wear for pets. Once I was solidly against this. And now…
Now I am all for it.
What are the trendy/popular things you used to vehemently oppose that you kind of love now? Or what are the things you have always hated and will always hate, no matter what?



















