Day in the Life: A Random Winter Saturday 

It’s been so fun to read the latest spate of DITL posts among my blog friends, I want to join the party. Luckily, I took notes and photos for a DITL post back in January. Why haven’t I posted it until now? No idea.

Here’s how a random winter Saturday played out.

07:00 – My alarm goes off. I feel exhausted. I went to bed around 10:30/11:00 last night, and I only woke up once at around 3:30, so I should feel rested, but I don’t. I reset my alarm for 7:30, but can’t fall back to sleep. Instead, I do the Wordle (got it in 3) and Connections (easy peasy), then snuggle with my husband. We both drag ourselves out of bed at 7:20ish. I take all my medicines, wash my face, brush my teeth, pull on some workout clothes, and make the bed. 

07:30 – My 7:30 alarm goes off. I kiss my husband goodbye (he’s on call this weekend, so is headed to the hospital), grab my laptop, and go down to the basement, where I fill up a glass with ice water and then head into the exercise room. I choose a Tracy Steen workout and get sweaty. The forty-minute workout takes me 50 minutes because I have to take a couple of breaks, refill my water, and rewind a couple of the exercises so I can make sure I’m doing them right. In the middle of the workout, I decide I am DONE with lunges and switch over to dead lifts. After the cooldown, I roll around on a massage ball because my left trapezius muscle is stiff and painful. 

08:30 – I set my watch timer for thirty minutes and get on the treadmill. I open my laptop and try to write a blog post. It takes me thirty minutes to write a single bullet point. 

09:00 – My timer goes off, I shut down the treadmill and head upstairs to make breakfast. After I rinse my sweaty face off at the kitchen sink, I have one of those “if you give a mouse a cookie” experiences: My smoothie-making equipment is in the (clean) dishwasher from the day before, and as I pull it out, I feel like I should empty the dishwasher. I resist, but I do grab a mug and turn on my kettle so I can make tea. The air fryer, which we used for Carla’s dinner last night, is on the counter where I normally make my smoothie, so I go to the dishwasher to get the clean components for the air fryer so I can put it away. While I have the dishwasher open, I feel like I should really empty it – but I resist. Then, when I’m making my smoothie, I notice that there’s hardly any honey left and I should add honey to the Costco list before I forget because I use honey every day, but as I’m thinking that, the kettle alerts me that my water is ready, and I realize I haven’t put any tea bags in the mug. As I’m getting the tea bags, I notice the time – it’s 9:10 already! – and note that Carla isn’t awake yet. I should really wake her up, but waking her up is A Process and I want to eat breakfast first, and finish the blog post I started. I make my smoothie, start this blog post, decide I want some toast. Put toast in the toaster, grab almond butter and honey. Remember that I still haven’t added honey to the Costco list. Realize the tea is probably done steeping, so I toss the tea bags, add half and half. Carla is awake! She asks me to make her some hot cocoa – this is one of the ways I am getting her to drink milk, so I’m fine with it – and then I sit down to eat my breakfast. 

10:00 – One of my friends texted me earlier asking for narrative nonfiction recommendations. I am always happy to discuss and/or suggest books, so I spend a few minutes writing down the nonfiction I’ve read the past few years. It’s not many books and I feel like there are a TON of good ones missing from this list. 

10:15 – While the shower is heating up, I start my French lesson. We are going to France this year and I want to brush up on the very creaky skills I learned in high school and college. As per usual, my vocabulary is pretty decent but I cannot for the life of me remember verb constructions or adverbs. 

10:20 – It’s a hair washing day, so I lather up. I wash my hair roughly twice a week. I use Nexxus shampoo once a week and Olaplex once a week. No idea if this is doing anything to protect my color or strengthen my hair/scalp. As per usual, I shave my legs and curse this awful shower which has nothing for me to prop my foot on. I decide that balancing on one foot every day while attempting to avoid slashing my skin open with a razor is good for my balance.

10:35 – I apply my various lotions and potions to try to soothe my constantly dry skin. Since I wrote this post on how much I spend on personal care stuff each year, I have gone completely overboard when it comes to ordering the latest It Product that such-and-such aging celebrity swears is the key to her dewy, youthful, wrinklefree skin. Right now I am using Perricone MD eye cream on my eyes twice a day and that’s IT for the fancy stuff. (Did I really spend $125 on this stuff??? I find that hard to believe but I really did go wild last year.) These days, I also use good ol’ Cerave moisturizer on my face (yes, it is night cream, but there’s no law) and Eucerin on the rest of my body. I go through Eucerin like it’s my job. Since my hair takes a million years to dry, I let it air dry awhile before I blow dry it, and apply a small amount of Aveda Smooth Infusion to keep the frizz at bay. Ah look, I use it so infrequently they’ve issued new packaging. Then I add some perfume – I’m trying to find a new signature scent – and apply mascara, eyebrow mascara, and some Tula eye brightener. 

10:45 – I pull on a pair of daytime leggings and a T shirt. I am volunteering at a school event later, so I will probably put on jeans at some point but for now, soft pants it is.

10:50 – There’s a load of clean laundry that I haven’t folded yet, so I dump the basket out on my bed and deal with it. It’s mostly my stuff anyway: I wear a TON of black clothes mainly because I cycle through three pairs of leggings a day. (Sleep leggings, workout leggings, post-shower leggings.) After I fold, I put all my stuff away. 

11:00 – Carla has unloaded the dishwasher for me, so I fill it back up with dirty breakfast dishes and do a quick clean of the kitchen.

11:10 – In my office, I finish the blog post I started earlier. Why does it take me so long to WRITE THINGS?

11:30 – Oh goodness, we have to GO. Carla has a pre-scheduled activity! Thankfully it’s nearby. I dash into my bathroom and dry my hair. Luckily it only takes ten minutes.

11:40 – I get in the car and wait for Carla who has realized it is only 20 degrees and she requires a sweatshirt. After I settle her at her activity, I head back home. In the car, I’m listening to The Return of Ellie Black (bookshop.org / amazon), on the recommendation of a fabulous blogger; was it you, Allison??? I’m enjoying it so far. 

12:15 – Back at home, I notice that the house smells of pickle juice but I cannot find the source. I make a quick lunch and jot down a few notes for this post.

12:20 – I have ninety minutes before I need to pick up Carla, so I set my timer and open up my current manuscript. 

13:40 – After a respectable 869 words, I do a quick exchange of leggings for jeans, then leave to pick up Carla and take her to a school event. On the way out, I grab a Diet Coke for the forty-five minutes I’m about to spend in the car. I don’t even really like soda that much these days, but I find myself turning to it to help perk me up in the afternoons.

18:40 – The school event goes longer than I anticipated; it was supposed to end at six. Even though it wasn’t difficult or even very busy, I’m cranky and hungry and overstimulated. On the drive home I am not particularly kind to or patient with Carla. Being a shitty parent exacerbates the crankiness. When we get home, the kitchen STILL smells like pickle juice. What is happening?

19:00 – My husband is home from the hospital! Woot! It’s a fend-for-yourself night tonight, so I make some black bean tacos for myself, my husband heats up some leftover soup, and Carla eats a yogurt (she had a hotdog and lots of junk at the school event, don’t worry). The important thing (to me) is that we eat our cobbled-together meals together, at the table, and chat while we eat. (I did not get a photo of dinner, so here’s an old picture to liven up this portion of the post.)

19:45 – After I rinse the dishes and throw them into the dishwasher, I escape to my office for a few minutes while Carla showers and my husband does some administrative work. I comment on a few blogs and make some notes for this post. 

20:15 – Once Carla and my husband are ready, we watch an episode of Stranger Things (we’re finally on Season 4!) and chase it with an episode of Modern Family (season 1). This has become our family weekend activity and I love it. Is either show remotely appropriate for an eleven-year-old? No, not at all. 

22:00 – Carla heads to her room to brush her teeth and hair, so I head to my bedroom to do the same thing. I also wash my face (third time today, if you’re counting) and get into soft, cozy jammies. Then I read a chapter of Mockingjay (bookshop.org / amazon) to Carla. Going to bed two hours later than she does on school nights is probably screwing up her sleep schedule, but it’s so nice to have our weekly TV time together – we just don’t get to spend much time with my husband during the week – and it’s hard for me to cut out our reading time. Carla claims she can’t sleep unless I read to her, but I also really enjoy reading. It’s a valuable pocket of connection for the two of us at the end of the day, and helps us end on a good note, even if I was a snappy, impatient, yelly mom. I’m all too aware that the days of her asking me to read to her are numbered and I want them to last as long as possible.

22:30 – My husband is in his office, writing notes and calling patients. I make one last attempt to rid our kitchen of the pickle juice smell by scrubbing down all the countertops and cleaning the disposal with baking soda and ice. Hopefully this does the trick???

22:45 – This has been pretty typical of our weekends lately, although I don’t often spend two-plus hours in the car on a Saturday. Maybe that’s why I’m extra tired? I take out my contacts, slather my lips with Vaseline, and moisturize my hands with O’Keefe’s. I try to read a little bit but fall asleep quickly. Another day is done. 

Day in the Life: Mid-December 2022

Cait mentioned that she would be interested in reading a Day in the Life post. I love to read those posts, when other bloggers post them! It is so fascinating to see what other people do with their time. My days never look like one another, which is… good. But a LOT of time is spent in front of my computer, so… that doesn’t necessarily make for interesting reading? 

I thought I would give it a shot anyway. Here’s a random day from this past week (mid-December 2022):

  • 6:45 – Alarm goes off. It was so windy last night that I kept waking up and I feel like I slept horribly. I hit the snooze button – unwise. 
  • 6:54 – I stagger out of bed. My feet are feeling much better during the day, but they are stiff and sore in the mornings. I go climb into bed with Carla and sing her the Good Morning song. She wants to sleep a little longer, so I set a timer for three minutes and do the Wordle, the free version of Spelling Bee, and the free mini crossword at NYT online. 
Disclosure: I tried to take pictures throughout the day as I was taking notes on what I did, but I forgot some. So this is a screen grab of today’s mini, rather than the one I did earlier in the week.
  • 7:00 – The timer goes off and I coax Carla into telling me what she wants for breakfast. (French toast sticks and strawberries.)
  • 7:05 – I put some French toast sticks in the microwave and then dash upstairs to the laundry folding center guest room where I grab a shirt (black) and fleece-lined leggings (black) and a pair of socks (also black) from the pile. I take them downstairs and throw them into the dryer to warm up so Carla can be roasty toasty when she gets dressed. 
  • 7:10 – Carla comes downstairs, opens the day’s advent calendar door, and I give her breakfast. She and I chat while she eats. Usually I take this time to make tea, but my husband is on call so he is still home and getting his coffee and lunch together so I stay out of his way. Carla and I give him kisses and hugs as he heads out the door.
  • 7:30 – I rinse Carla’s dishes for her (this is a treat; rinsing the dishes is her job) and put them in the dishwasher. I wipe down the counters. My phone chimes with a reminder that Carla needs to bring her instrument to school and she assures me that it’s all ready to go. While she’s upstairs, I tuck a couple of gifts I wrapped last night under the tree.
  • 7:40 – I brush my teeth and hair and wash my face, which is still itchy and inflamed. While I brush my teeth, I stretch my feet and calves. 
  • 7:45 – Carla and I put on shoes and coats and get into the car. 
  • 7:55 – I drop Carla off at school. I feel so lucky, daily, that we live so close to school. I remind her to look for her gym shoes in the lost and found (sigh).
  • 8:15 – I speed through Trader Joe’s grabbing frozen latkes for Hanukkah this weekend and some baby corn and English peas for Carla. Luckily, the store is nearly empty this early in the morning and I am in and out in five minutes flat.
  • 8:35 – Back home. I put the kettle on to boil. I start a load of towels in the wash and fold some laundry on the (clean) kitchen counter while I listen to an audiobook. 
  • 8:50 – I get dinner going in the crockpot. 
  • 9:00 – I drink tea and eat some breakfast while reading blog posts. 
  • 9:15 – Then I write a blog post of my own.
  • 9:45 – I have presents to wrap, which I don’t enjoy. But I do enjoy listening to my audiobook while I wrap them.
  • 10:00 – I shlep my laptop down to the basement and walk on the treadmill while I work on my current manuscript.
  • 11:30 – I am sweaty and at a good stopping point. Even though I walked for 90 minutes, it doesn’t feel like I did much – I have to keep the treadmill on a very low speed or I can’t type. I throw on my coat and go for a quick walk outside – it’s drizzling and cold and the damp air feels good on my hot face. I listen to my audiobook while I walk.
  • 12:00 – I take a shower. Ugh, I have to wash my hair today which means I have to dry it. I normally read an ebook while I dry my hair, but today I review some materials a client sent me in preparation for our meeting today. 
  • 12:45 – I throw a load of white laundry into the washing machine. Do I have time to eat lunch before my meeting? No, I do not. 
  • 1:00 – I jump on Zoom for a thirty-minute meeting with a client about a smallish project – a profile of a community philanthropist.
  • 1:30 – I do a quick draft of the profile while my thoughts are still fresh from our call. 
  • 2:00 – I remove the towels from the dryer and take them upstairs to the guest room, where I dump them on the bed. I grab another load of dirty clothes, take them downstairs, put the clean whites into the dryer and load the washer and run it. Back upstairs, I fold laundry and listen to my audiobook.
  • 2:30 – Still listening, I go make myself some tacos with leftover mahi-mahi. This is when I decide I know The Big Twist in the book I’m reading. It’s interesting– I think Jennifer Hillier is a brilliant writer – and I want to see how it all plays out. And to see, of course, if I’m right.
  • 2:50 – My mother-in-law calls and I chat with her for a few minutes. Then I do the lunch dishes.   
  • 3:00 – I have a few more holiday cards to address and stamp, so I take care of that and tape some boxes of holiday gifts closed so that I can mail them.
  • 3:15 – The laundry beeps so I carry up another load, do some more folding. There are a bunch of little odds and ends that have gathered in various rooms, so I move them to their homes (some of them live in the trash). Clean clothes in the dryer, the last load of the day in the washing machine.
  • 3:40 – Carla has an extra-curricular activity tonight, so I have a little extra time. I load her instrument into the car along with three boxes that I need to mail to my far-flung family.
  • 3:50 – I mail the boxes. Yikes. I totally understand why people prefer to have Amazon and Target etc. do their mailing for them; it is expensive! I determine to swallow my frustration about people sending me gifts to wrap instead of them wrapping and mailing things themselves. 
  • 4:15 – I go to the bank. Then I dash over to Starbucks to buy gift cards for Carla’s extracurricular instructors. I realize I forgot to bring Carla a snack so I grab her a bag of popcorn as well.
  • 4:30 – I wait in the car line to pick up Carla. It is one of my favorite parts of the day, seeing her little face break through the throng of kiddos milling about as they wait for their parents. 
  • 4:50 – I drop Carla off at her music lesson. Then I go to Kohl’s to wander around. I’m hunting for one last gift for my husband. I usually avoid Kohl’s – it is SO crowded and the line moves SO slowly – but tonight it is nearly empty. I find a pair of deeply-discounted pajama pants that I think he’ll love. There is no one in front of me at the register so I’m back in my car in no time.
  • 5:15 – I’m waiting for Carla to finish her lesson. While I wait, I have an idea for how to move my manuscript forward and I type notes to myself in an email.
  • 5:45 – Carla’s done with her music lesson. I drive her home.
  • 6:15 – I urge Carla to finish the mug she made for one of her extracurricular instructors. She is very weary of making mugs, but she volunteered to make this one, and tomorrow is the day we need to drop it off. While she works on it, I make her dinner (a hamburger patty with pickles, tomato, and cheddar cheese on the side, some rice, and some cut up kiwi). While the burger cooks, I sit at my computer and try to translate my earlier notes into coherent prose.
  • 7:00 – Oh my goodness, it’s already 7:00! I call Carla up to eat and cut up broccoli for my husband’s and my dinner. The lemon garlic chicken has been smelling SO intensely of garlic all day I wonder if I did something wrong. (Added too much garlic, I think, even though that sounds impossible.) 
  • 7:15 – After I cut the broccoli, I sit beside Carla at the counter and read her three chapters of the book we are reading. I really, vehemently dislike the book (there is too much fat-phobia and bathroom talk and also it is fully ridiculous.), but she thinks it’s funny.
  • 7:45 – Yikes. We got caught up in the book and it is now fifteen minutes past the time Carla is supposed to be in bed! I send Carla upstairs to shower and then dash into the basement to put a coat of ModPodge on the mug she just made.
  • 7:50 – My husband arrives home. He tells me about his day while I put some couscous on the stove.
  • 8:00 – I go up to kiss Carla goodnight, sure she will want her Daddy to read to her, but she asks me to read her another chapter in our book. I ask my husband to stir the couscous and take it off the heat once most of the water is gone. (Carla adds, very serious, “Whatever you do, Daddy, DON’T put couscous down the garbage disposal!”)  
  • 8:30 – I kiss Carla goodnight and go downstairs. My husband is in his office, taking a call from the hospital. I spend about twenty minutes on this blog post then run downstairs to put another coat of ModPodge on the mug.
  • 9:00 – My husband comes into the kitchen. I put some broccoli in the microwave to steam.
  • 9:10 – We sit down to eat and chat. The chicken is edible, but not good. I’m not sure what I did wrong this time – I’ve made it a million times before. Maybe it was just in the crockpot way too long.
  • 9:30 – We watch an episode of Station Eleven and then an episode of Abbott’s Elementary. My poor husband is asleep halfway through the latter. Once the show is over, I prepare his coffee for tomorrow and kiss him goodnight, leaving him to sleep on the couch. Poor guy. 
  • 11:00 – I apply a final layer of ModPodge to Carla’s mug. Then I wash my face and brush my teeth and do my feet/calf stretches. Then I change into pajamas and get into bed.
  • 11:15 – I stretch my feet with an old bathrobe belt (sounds weird, but it is very effective) and read a few pages of The Accomplice before I fell my eyelids getting heavy. Lights out, time to sleep.

Whew. This was an extremely busy day, but when I type it out, it looks so full of NOTHING. I would say that it is fairly representative of a typical day in my life, even though most days don’t involve so much laundry or so much gift wrapping/preparation/mailing. 

If my math is right, I spent between four and a half and five hours on writing projects (blog posts, novel, and freelance work) over the course of this day. Ideally, I would spend the entire seven-ish hours Carla is at school writing, but when you mix in things like grocery shopping, laundry, eating, and exercise, it almost never works out that way. Add in all the extra nonsense of Christmas preparations, and the time shrinks even more. Yes, I realize that some of this is lack of discipline: I could devote all the time Carla is at school to writing, and reserve the rest of the day for errands, exercise, etc. I am making choices about how I spend my time, and that’s something I am constantly examining and trying to revise. Still, four-to-five-ish hours is a good chunk and I’m grateful for it. 

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