Hair
Are you doing your hair as you normally do? I have STOPPED. There is absolutely no point in spending 30 minutes drying my hair and straightening it. Well. I could see how it MIGHT have a point, at some time in the future – if I need to feel Normal, somehow. Or if I have a super-important Zoom meeting (unlikely). This is a time for the least possible exertion, hairwise. My hair is not cooperating, though – instead of settling into beautifully air-dried curls it is still doing what it did in The Time Before, which is drying into drab frizzes that are vaguely curl-adjacent on the right side of my head and straightish on the left side. Very disappointing, hair. We should all be Stepping Up in These Unprecedented Times.
What I have been doing is braiding my hair after I get out of the shower. Usually, I part my hair to the left, but when I separated it into two braids, I parted it down the middle. And immediately remembered that I part my hair left for a reason. Hoo boy do I already have a LOT of grey. Well. It can’t be helped and it isn’t so extreme that I am ready to try an at-home coloring process.
I also remembered why I normally do my hair very simply – braiding is probably one of the easiest hair styles on the planet and yet I can barely do it. I am not talking about French braiding or fishtail braiding or anything fancy. Just a simple three-strand braid. It does not look good, folks.
Clothes
I am not nor have I ever been one of those people who gets fully dressed to work from home. No. Comfort is king. But at least when I had to pick up Carla from school and go to Actual Places like the grocery or Target or Carla’s ballet studio, I would get dressed in real clothes every day. Now… Well, my wardrobe is divided into three primary sections: pajamas (leggings and one of my husband’s old t-shirts), exercise clothes (leggings, a sports bra, and a tank top), and inside clothes, for after I’ve showered (leggings and a sweatshirt or long-sleeved T-shirt). Yes, I have different leggings for each category, and, even though they are all black, I can tell them apart. (The pajama leggings are the softest and loosest.) There’s a seldom-worn forth category: outside clothes (jeans and a shirt which immediately go into the laundry upon returning home). I found A HOLE in one pair of leggings recently, so I may need to expand my attire options at some point. But not now.
Homeschooling
We are on Day 4 of homeschooling – or whatever it is when you are trying to cajole your child into following the lesson plans her teachers have given you – and I am already having to step away and take deep breaths every few minutes. HOW are people doing this with multiple children? And while WORKING? I am ready to walk into the sea.
Shopping
After stalking the online ordering app for four days, I was finally able to get a timeslot for curbside grocery pickup. I haven’t tried this before, and I am expecting that only part of my order will be fulfilled, but I am kind of anxious about it. Will something essential, like milk or taco sauce, be missing? If so, I’ll have to go to the store which I am obviously trying to avoid. Of course, ordering wine is not an option so I will have to go to a store EVENTUALLY anyway.
Passover
In an effort to keep Carla’s Jewish heritage alive and part of her life, I want to observe Passover. But… I feel so out of my element. I am NOT Jewish and a lot of the books we have don’t really explain things in depth. Plus, I don’t really know anything about how to hold a proper Seder and certainly don’t have the right food on hand. Well. I still have a couple of days left to figure things out.
Easter
I found an art supplies kit and a leftover rainbow leopardfrom Carla’s sixth birthday in the gift closet. Plus I have a very small amount of Easter candy I picked up from the grocery store. So I think I can make up a decent Easter basket for Carla. (We have actual baskets, fake grass, and plastic eggs in the basement, because I reuse them year to year.) But I am still FRETTINGabout it. Sure, I could explain that the Easter Bunny is practicing social distancing and so asked me to round up what I could… but on the other hand, I want Easter to be Extra Special because so little is special these days. I have filled my virtual Target cart with candy and books and toys that I can pick up curbside… but I am hesitating. Partly because my husband thinks we have plenty of Easter-y stuff. And partly because I feel really guilty about shopping for non-essentials.
Housecleaning
I think I have come up with a rough housecleaning schedule.
- Daily: Making beds, unloading/loading the dishwasher, wiping off tables and counters, disinfecting high-tough areas, using the dustbuster to eradicate crumbs, tidying up main living spaces.
- Near daily: Laundry
- Monday: Toilets and counters
- Tuesday: Showers and tubs
- Wednesday: Break
- Thursday: Windows and baseboards
- Friday: Dusting
- Saturday: Bedding
- Sunday: Floors
Last week, I taught Carla how to clean the toilets. Yesterday, my husband vacuumed all our carpeted surfaces while I scrubbed the kitchen and bathroom floors. I hate cleaning but it does make me FEEL better. It also makes me feel better to think about my housekeeper returning someday.
Books
I finished all three books I mentioned in this postand have moved on to Jessica Simpson’s memoir. I wish my library had more Agatha Christie books available via ebook – they have a good number, but not all, and so many are already checked out. I want to read them in order and that is nearly impossible to do. I put MANY of your suggestions on hold through my library website, but none of them have come through yet.
Socializing
I have been very pleased by the amount of socializing I’ve been able to do even while quarantined. Two high school friends and I had a happy hour via Zoom the other day that was really enjoyable. And then my husband and I had a FaceTime date with family friends who were supposed to come over for dinner. I was surprised by how satisfying it was to chat with them – it was nearly as good as being with them in person. Not as enjoyable was the family meetup we did with my husband’s family that lasted for WELL OVER AN HOUR. That is too long.
Exercise
Getting “proper” exercise has been a real challenge. My preferred method is walking on the treadmill for an hour, but when I do that, our internet goes out. So no one in the house can do anything requiring an internet connection, which means I can’t even walk on the treadmill while Carla is “at school” because so many of her “assignments” require her to be connected to Google classroom. (This is completely ignoring the fact that, so far, I have to be IN THE ROOM with Carla the entire “school day” or she wanders completely off track ARRRRGGGHHHHHH.) I have done a few Barre3 videos via YouTube, but it’s not the sameas being in the studio with my favorite instructor. I suppose I should resume using exercise videos, but I am resisting for some reason. Carla’s daily schedule has two hour-long blocks set aside for exercise, which mainly consists of us walking over to a nearby school parking lot so she can ride her bike. I walk back and forth a million times across the parking lot, occasionally sprinting. It’s not FUN but it does a mediocre job.
Food
A lot of people seem to be making new and interesting things during this pandemic, especially bread. My own mother has made two types of bread in the past week and my father made a lemon cake. I have made… my typical rotation of dinners. Carla and I are going to make cupcakes for Easter – she wants chocolate cakewith these bunny decorations. We did a Sprinkle Inventory and do not have pink sprinkles – but we do have purple and gold, so I think we’ll be okay. I have flour and yeast, so I COULD make bread. But I am kind of waiting until we NEED to make bread, you know? Right now, we have a loaf of bread in the freezer and I ordered a loaf of bread to be picked up later this week. Maybe if bread doesn’t make it into my actual shopping bags, I will make some. I have been kind of waiting for an opportunity to make focaccia… maybe this is my chance.
Mood
Friday was pretty rough. Saturday, I wanted to drive my family into the woods and leave them there. And I have been waking up at 4:00 or 5:00 every morning, which is unpleasant. However, I had a pretty decent day yesterday, slept without waking all night last night, and am feeling fairly balanced today. I will take the good days as they come.
There you have it. Now give me the updates on how YOU are doing.
I have been doing my hair and makeup, and getting dressed as normal. It helps me to feel better about this insane life we are leading right now. Thanks to a friend introducing me to Houseparty app, I’ve been having some nice social drinks with friends. I am actually wearing lipstick to do those virtual meetups! Homeschooling is a bit stressful right now, but we are getting through.
Also, I had a very rough day yesterday emotionally, so I hear you. xo
Hair – jeez, I gave up straightening it years ago. You need the right product – what that might be for you requires trying various things – and an air diffuser, if you need to dry it quickly. Search out curly hair techniques. I have found that my hair tends to hold the curl much better the longer I don’t straighten.
I have been doing makeup and getting dressed every day. Nothing fancy, usually just comfy jeans.
Just ordered my first Instacart to be delivered tomorrow – we’ll see how it goes. The Husband and I have agreed right now, it’s worth the few dollars in fees to not have to go into the stores right now.
Drawing eyebrows on makes me feel like a real human. As for clothes it’s a never ending churn of shorts and tshirts. Some good! Some cruddy! Some both! As for hair… today I have a messy bun and a headband trying to think I look like some runway waif… I can convince myself of this as long as I don’t look in a mirror.
I tried one day to just dry my hair in Mini’s twisty turban. She has thick curly hair. While it is magic for her, it was an epic fail for me. My thin hair just stood on end when I removed it. Her hair falls into beautiful ringlets. Sigh. I do think this is the time for trying things though. Curly has experimented with wearing her hair in a few different ways. Long story that I must post soon, but her hair suffered a traumatic difficulty in May. This time at home not being seen is not a bad thing for her. I am trying less product in my hair because I often wonder which of the three products is really doing all the work and which others are only along for the expensive ride. I am making headway – ha, get it. Everything else is status quo. Coach and I grocery shopped on Saturday night and spent $648. Staggering. We won’t starve. I admire your cleaning schedule. I hope to get to the bathrooms today with the help of my army of half-ass cleaning offspring. Even though we are stuck at home, there is much going on. Ants in the basement. Possible pot smoking in the college room. Babysitting family behaving badly. Plus the writing class I am taking started a poetry unit this week. Not my favorite aspect of writing. I do NOT envy trying to e-learn a small child. Good luck!
Oh gosh, I have not done my hair in four weeks haha. I wash it about every other day (I was washing it every 3-4 days, but now I just NEED to wash it more often to feel a little more put together) and let it air dry. I don’t have time for blow drying and straightening it right now. I also haven’t worn makeup in four weeks and my skin is GLOWING. Who knew I needed to stop caking my face in foundation 5-6 times a week to get rid of its redness and oiliness?
Excited to hear what you think about Jessica Simpson’s memoir – I’ve been wanting to read it!
You’re doing great, friend. <3